Too Patient A Patient

I am a patient man – often too patient for my own good.

It is now more than a month since my second cystoscopy and biopsy at Southampton General Hospital. The biopsy was meant to reveal what had been left of the tumour first removed in June, after which I would know whether or not the planned BCG vaccination treatment would still be the best next procedure. I had been told that the analysis would be considered in two weeks.

Yesterday I telephoned the urology department to ask about the result. I was told by the man taking the calls on the number I had been given that I had not had the procedure on 21st, because I was “not on the system”. It was with growing irritation that I spent almost 15 minutes saying that I didn’t know about his system, but I did know I had had the procedure. Eventually I demanded to speak to a urologist. They were all in clinic, but he did agree to get one to call me. I am still waiting for that call. Yes, a classic case of “Computer says no.”

I then telephoned my GP surgery, leaving a message for my doctor there. As always he rang me within ten minutes. He had received the urology consultant’s report (I had not). This revealed that there was nothing left of the tumour. Although diminishing, I have been experiencing discomfort. A urine sample has shown that I do not have a UTI, but there is blood in the urine. He therefore sent me for an urgent blood test at Lymington Hospital, which was carried out this morning.

In the meantime I called the Southampton Urology department this morning. The given number rang for ages before a breathless woman answered. She was the very capable clinician who had removed my catheter in Lymington. There was no-one to manage the phone today so the others all had to leave what they were doing in turn.

Happily, we both remembered each other and Sharon found everything on the system and confirmed what my GP had said. I still need to speak to the surgeon who carried out the procedure, make my frustrations clear, and more importantly ask what I can expect from now on. Can I trust it?

I ask you.

This afternoon I read a lot more of Ted Walker’s ‘The High Path’.

We celebrated this evening with a meal at Rokali’s where food and service was as good as ever. My choice was lamb vindaloo; Jackie’s, sizzling chicken tikka; we shared mushroom rice and cauliflower bhaji; Jackie drank Diet Coke and I drank Kingfisher.

103 comments

  1. Every time I read one of your accounts of experiences with your medical system (or those of other Britishers, for that matter) I shake my head in disbelief. For example: having direct access to my charts online is something I take for granted. I don’t have much to deal with medically, but every time I have a test, the results are posted online as soon as they’re available. I receive an email alerting me to the fact, and the doctor posts any response or recommendation once he or she has read them. The actual values are there for me to explore if I wish, and even actual scans can be called up. There’s no need for phone calls, unless something unexpected or urgent pops up.

    Anyway, you have my sympathies. I know a lot of people criticize our medical system, but I’ve found it affordable, efficient, and responsive. I’m grateful — and must say your level of patience is remarkable. Here’s hoping things sort themselves out in the future.

    1. I’m British and using the nhs. I always get the results of simple tests online at the same time as my doctor. As can everyone here if they choose. Scans however need interpretation so are slower. Given that the many scans and tests I have had since 2020 would add up to a very large price- I am very pleased with my free medical care. I’m an impatient patient so chase up faster than our dear Derrick does.

      1. Even here there can be variations in the level of service. I certainly realize that my view of your system has to be affected by the entirely human tendency to talk more about what goes wrong, rather than what goes right! Whatever the system, it’s always good when it serves the patient well.

          1. That can be an issue here, as well. Sometimes administrators and those responsible for the ‘systems’ forget that they’re involved in patient care, too.

  2. Sound like a fairly normal telephone call to a hospital, although I must say I have always found the southampton urology dept to be exceptionally good.
    Ooo Kingfisher beer, haven’t had one of those for a few years.

  3. I am so sorry that you had to deal with the run-around with the doctors, Derrick. The same nonsense happens here too, you are not alone in your frustration. You guys deserve the celebration at dinner for having to deal with nonsense! Be well, my friend. 😎👍🏻

  4. Humm… so sorry Derrick you are were given the run around.. But very good news on the results..
    I have a newphew who had a full body scan in February… He still cant get any kind of answers of the results.. Rang countless of times.. Being told there is a back log.. WHAT! since Feb… The NHS is really straining at the seams..
    Enjoy your book and Jackie’s great cooking Derrick… xx Much love x

  5. You have certainly had a run around- it’s not nice when that happens! Your hospital seems to be very shortstaffed. I’m sorry that it is affecting you.

    Yes- be less patient next time! I find my GP surgery is very good at chasing hospitals…

  6. This sort of thing does nothing to aid the calm mental state that helps recovery. There is no obvious route to quick improvements so more patience may well be required.

  7. Oh, gosh! I’m so sorry to hear about all of this! (sad face) That is quite the run-around and I understand your great frustration! I would feel the same way.
    Yes, sometimes we learn we have to be a less patient patient, as people tend to ignore us. (sad face)
    YAY! SO happy to hear your good news! 🙂 Now I pray you will find out what is going on with your most recent test…and soon this time.
    I can’t wait to read your review of the book you are currently reading!
    Hope you can relax and rest and get a good sleep tonight.
    (((HUGS))) ❤️❤️

  8. I hope that the news is truly as good as it sounds (not trying to jinx you at all). Bob and I had lunch at an Indian restaurant and I thought of you and Jackie. My chicken saffron was delicious as what the complimentary salad that accompanied it. Look forward to another book review as reading times permit.

  9. How frustrating, Derrick! I’m so sorry. I’m glad though that your GP and clinician sound capable and were able to get results for you. I’m glad there’s nothing left of the tumor, and I hope your discomfort is easily relieved. xx

  10. I hesitate to hit like as it sounds so frustrating, and not completely conclusive, but I am happy to hear there is no more of the tumor. The bleeding is troubling.
    I’ve not heard of Ted Walker. I’ll look him up.

  11. The “infallible computers are only as good as the System that use them” … hopefully
    , real humanoids will attend to your situation soon Derrick …

  12. This must be so tough Derrick. They seem so short staffed, but it’s good to know you have connected with people who care, despite the shortcomings. May all fall into place as you persevere. x

  13. Although in variant geographies and cultures, we all have a hair-raising tale or two about the medical system. Add computers to that and we have a deadly cocktail. What is great in your case is the encouraging diagnosis. Please take care of yourself.

  14. My son in Glasgow is experiencing frustrations with the lack of follow-up with results of tests and scans. He has a good GP, who is equally frustrated at times. I realise afresh how spoiled we are with an excellent medical service. I wish you well.

  15. It’s frustrating to wait so long for answers, only to face hospital system issues. Thankfully, your GP and Sharon clarified things, but it’s understandable to still feel uneasy. Hopefully, speaking with the surgeon gives you more clarity. Glad you could enjoy a nice meal at Rokali’s—sounds like a perfect way to unwind!

  16. I am so sorry this is happening to you, Derrick! Similar things can and do happen over here, and seem to be increasing in frequency as doctors are pushed to handle more patients per unit time.

  17. I can identify with your medical facility frustrations. I had an appointment that took months to wait for and they just cancelled it. I can see the nurse instead of the doctor. Not what I need. Meanwhile I can barely walk. The next appointment will not be until November.

  18. Aha! Good luck getting to speak to the surgeon who carried out the procedure! I sure hope s/he makes her/himself available!! Yes, you do need to make your frustrations perfectly clear, and don’t just ASK what you can expect from now on… but tell them what you NEED to have happen!! Can you trust them to listen to you? Let’s hope so! Can you trust them to act on your wishes? I don’t know… but be persistent!! And keep us posted!

  19. How frustrating for you. I’m sorry the surgeon failed to send a copy of report to you. It’s unfair and very bad practice. I hope you hear very soon and someone will put your mind at rest.
    In my experience getting hold of the surgeon’s secretary is a good way of contacting the surgeon. The surgeons I’ve had seem to have an NHS secretary and a private one.

  20. Extremely frustrating, particularly when it’s something important. If it helps, I can report that after my last cystoscopy I experienced discomfort and bleeding for months. It’s unpleasant, and persistent, but it does eventually pass. It’s the old thing about not healing as fast at our age. I hope it is just a matter of time before you recover fully. I’ve been in five times now and each time the procedure seems to get shorter while the recovery gets longer.

  21. Too much technology and bureaucracy have overwhelmed our health care systems would be my bet. But I hope you continue to be assertive (calmly for your sake) to get the information and care you need and deserve.

  22. I cannot trust healthcare providers; they are usually quite busy and sometimes overlook things they should not. I hope everything is fine with your case. But making sure is always must; especially when you are in doubt about the result of treatment.

  23. I will never understand why the health “system” is as it is! If you can trust it? Not so sure…but then again, what you do? Unfortunately we need them sooner or later in life…

  24. I can very much relate to your frustrating experience, Derrick, especially since I am going through a similar rigmarole at this time. At least you are getting adequate medical care despite the inadequate communication, which is not the case here because of the overwhelming dictatorship of medical insurance companies.

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