Regular readers will have noticed the gradual tailing off of
my lunches with my old friend, Norman. It was not really that long ago that I visited fortnightly and enjoyed his adventurous cooking accompanied by my bottle of wine.
We first found friendship in the early 1970s, and were strong confidants ever since. When Jackie and I were £15,000 short of the purchase price of our house, Norman offered to lend it free of interest.
For the last three years Norman’s multiple ailments had made him increasingly frail. He spent two of his last months in hospital before being transferred three weeks ago to a care home where he died last night.
His death, although bringing a tear to my eye, and a lump in my throat, is not to be mourned. Life had become extremely painful for him and his faith had made him ready for the next life. He and his many friends are predominantly relieved.
A keen paddle steamer enthusiast, Norman gathered together all these friends on both his 70th and his 80th birthdays, and took us on a trip down the Thames.
Cheers, Norman.
Very sorry to hear this Derrick. All the best, Alex
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Thanks very much, Alex
He sounds like such a good friend, Derrick. Condolences to all who love him.
Thanks very much, Cynthia
Sorry to hear about Norman Derrick. Losing a friend is always painful. May he rest in peace.
Thanks very much, Arlene
It’s a great blessing to have had a friend like that.
It is, Oglach. Many thanks
Very sorry to hear about your friend Norman, Derrick. May his soul rest in peace.
Very many thanks, Rekha
I’m so sorry for your loss.
Thanks very much, Leslie
I’m so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. It sounds as if he had a very fine and spiritual life, and lucky to have you as a friend.
Very many thanks, Cathi
Sorry for your loss
Many thanks LDW
I am sorry for your loss, but glad he is now free to be without pain.
That’s right, GP. Thanks very much
May he RIP and joy.
Many thanks, Sherry
So sad – but his was a long and most fulfilled life. R.I.P. Norman
Many thanks, Geoff. He had, to quote him “had enough”. He went in all calm readiness
I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend, who sounds like such a caring, generous, and joyful man. I’m happy though that he is no longer suffering. It sounds like you were fortunate to have such a friend–and he to have you.
Thank you very much indeed, Dorinda
It’s Merril, but you’re welcome, Derrick.
Sorry, Merril
I know you have other things on your mind, Derrick.
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A celebration of his life. I always thought that’s what the end should be. I’m so sorry for the loss of your friend. May he Rest In Peace 🙏❤️
Many thanks, Dorinda
Your welcome, Derrick
Even though I didn’t know him, after reading your post, I, too, had a tear in my eye and a lump in my throat. Such a good friend! Cheers, indeed!
Many thanks for that empathy, Laurie
I surely can! I have lost dear friends over the years, and I still feel the loss.
So sorry to hear this, Derrick. What a great friend!
He was. Many thanks, Bob
I’m so sorry, Derrick. It’s always terrible to lose a friend. I’m sure you’ll miss your lunches sorely…
Many thanks, Marina. Yet watching him suffer so stoically was harder, really
I can imagine… I wouldn’t like to live on like that, either. It’s harder for the ones left behind, sometimes.
Sorry for the loss, Derrick. A good friend is rarely found.
Thank you very much, Maniparna.
Cheers to Norman. A good life. Very inspiring to live so well.
Thanks very much, Pleasant
Sorry for the loss. Memories are precious.
Thanks very much, What…not
I am so sorry to read this. You are right though to be glad that he is no longer suffering and is instead released to the next life free from worldly pain and woe. Go softly all of you who loved him. ⚘
Thank you very much, Osyth
Dear Derrick, friendship through the thick and thin of it all is true friendship. My heart aches for your loss. Beautiful post. 🌹
Thanks very much, Rose.
My condolences, Derrick. Norman sounds like a charming and generous man and I’m sure you will miss him. A life well lived and a friendship to treasure.
Thanks very much, Sandra
I’m sure you’ll miss such a wonderful friend, Derrick, so my condolences to you – though, as you say, his passing is more of a relief to you all. It’s hard to see someone we know and love in constant pain. I remember reading your post about the last ferry trip on his birthday not so long ago. Your post is a lovely tribute to him.
Many thanks, Millie.
May he forever rest in piece. Amazing post Derrick. Straight to the heart.
Cheers to a lasting friendship…forever.
Thank you very much, Pamela
Ah. A fitting tribute to your dear friend. Your lunches are the thing of legend.
Many thanks, Jenny
A lovely tribute Derrick! Such a special friend xx
Thanks very much, Lynn
most welcome
So sorry about the loss of your friend.
Many thanks, Karen
I had noticed Derrick and I am most sorry to hear of the loss of your good friend. However a long and deep friendship never really dies and it seems to me that Norman will live on in many hearts for a very long time. xoxo
Quite so, Pauline. Thank you very much indeed XX
He sounds a fine gentleman. It must have been a privilege to have known him.
It was. Thanks very much, John
You were lucky to have Norman as a friend. He seems like fun. I know you will miss him.
Many thanks, Flower
Sounds like you’ve lost a true friend, my sincere condolences to you Derrick.
Many thanks, Ivor. The third in the last 12 months. I guess that’s the age we’re at
I’m afraid, that’s the age we are at, Keep well my friend.
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Beautiful tribute, Derrick. I’m so sorry for your loss.
Many thanks, Jill
You speak so well about your friend and about death Derrick. Thank you.
Very many thanks, Sylvie
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Oh, Derrick, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear friend. I can not imagine a nicer tribute than the words and pictures you have shared. Hugs to you and his family. <3
Very many thanks, Jodie.
I am so sorry your friend has died. It is a comfort I am sure, to know he is out of pain and that his faith had helped him during all his struggles. My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Very many thanks, Clare
Bon Voyage Norman. May this next adventure be everything you could wish for.
Such apt comments, Widdders. Many thanks
I’m sorry for your loss, Derrick. I wish you the better coming weekend.
Thank you very much, Byung
A good friendship is a blessing. My condolences.
Thanks very much, Nicki
A very sad loss and a lovely tribute to him Derrick. I hold very fond memories of Norman who was my first supervisor, during Daphne’s illness. I heard from Tom who had visited him in hospital and realised the time was near and Norman was ready. Peace be with him.
Jan L
Very many thanks, Jan
My condolences to you Derrick, you had the privilege of his friendship, and I think gained from that friendship.
I did, indeed, Ian. Thanks very much
Sorry to hear about your loss Derrick.
Thank you very much, Rupali
Vale Norman. A good friend to you who will not be forgotten.
True, Gwen. Many thanks
So sorry to read about the loss of your friend.
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Many thanks, Melanie
Such a friend as that! Fortunate , the two of you, I would say….
Yes. Thanks very much, Cynthia
Sorry to hear this Derrick. The cruise down the Thames was a fine set of posts, and the lunches were always good reading.
Many thanks, Quercus
God bless him 💓
Thanks very much, Candy X
I’m very sorry my friend 💓
Derrick, I am so sorry. May Norman rest in peace.
Thank you very much, Persia
It may be less painful for Norman, but this still must hurt you, Derrick. So sorry for your loss.
The two Thames birthday parties, I believe I had the joy of being able to see your photos!
Cheers to friendship and everlasting memories! 🥂 💕
Very many thanks, Robin. You are right – both trips have been posted
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Condolences, Derrick. Cheers to Norman, the friendship you shared and the memories you carry!
Many thanks, Rob. I do appreciate your impressive catch up
My pleasure to view your excellent photos and enjoy your poetic prose, Derrick! Thank you for continuing to share with such style!
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What a Wonderful friend. May you and all who knew him sip the best of wine reflecting on his journey called life…
We do, msw. Thank you very much. It will mean something to you that when in Social Services, Norman became my Deputy until we both abandoned ship, Norman for the priesthood, a few months after I left for a freelance life.
Thanks for sharing that tidbit I think I’ll have a glass for your old pal 😉
Enjoy it 🙂