One Of The Memories

Jackie and I have been much heartened by the caring comments on yesterday’s post.

A number of people spoke of the good memories we would have. These have prompted me to provide links to two consecutive posts from 2014;‘Long Day’s Journey Into Night’ and ‘On The Road’, being a recounting of a trip to claim back my French house which I could not have done without Michael’s active support.

This is just one of many.


  1. I didn’t comment on your earlier post, Derrick, because I didn’t know what I could possibly add that other people hadn’t already said. I am so sorry about your news. One never expects to outlive one’s children and that in itself is the tragedy. Many warm wishes to you.

  2. I hesitate to write here because I only know of you through others’ blogs but I am truly sorry to hear of the loss of your son. Bloggers are wonderfully supportive and the many who follow and know you well will, I am sure, bring you comfort. Kind regards, Amanda.

  3. Derrick, you and Jackie were the last thought on my mind last night and the first when I woke up this morning. Good memories of our loved ones who have passed on are so precious. May your memories of Michael sustain you both as you grieve. xx

  4. That is quite a story! Easy to see how you could not have managed without your son. My heart is heavy for you and your family. Such a terrible loss! So glad you are sharing some of your memories of him. Beloved ones who have passed live through our memories.

  5. Lovely post, Derrick. I do think the memories help, and you have such a record on your blog. You and Jackie and your family have all been on my mind. Hugs to you.

  6. One of my gloomier times had me reflecting this: For, when you run out of time, all you have is memories. And when you run out of memories, all you have is time, a void divisible in hours, minutes and seconds.

    And when I run out of time I’ll be a memory. When I’ll run out of memories I’ll be gone.

  7. I’m sorry I hit reply inadvertently…
    Some memories never leave me because I never leave them, and I never leave them because I am the memories.
    Please tell us more about yourself then, Derrick.

  8. I got lost following the story of the squatters Derrick. I’m sure you have many such stories to tell of Michael being there and supporting you and his family in many ways. It is a great blessing to have a large family who cares for each other and who share so many happy, joyful, meaningful memories. The love never passes, the lost one can still be found in quiet moments and those ties that bind are never broken. No parent should ever bury a child – I believe it is the greatest of losses and such a loss is hard to bear bravely. But you are brave Derrick and such a noble man and you and Jackie will weather this loss together. You all remain in my thoughts with much love xoxo

  9. Thank you for sharing the links. I will go and read them.
    Yes, I do believe our loved ones who have passed would want us to focus on the sweet memories. 🙂
    You, Jackie, and all of your family are in my thoughts and prayers today.
    I wish I could do more.
    I just want you to know you are not alone…people love you and care about you…we hurt for you and with you.

  10. blockquote, div.yahoo_quoted { margin-left: 0 !important; border-left:1px #715FFA solid !important; padding-left:1ex !important; background-color:white !important; } Dear Michael, he was such a delightful boy when he came to stay at the age of 11, bringing his friend & of course Piper – his dog. He told his teacher he was staying with his Aunty – I was honoured. He has always stayed in my heart – our son’s middle name is after him – & until his marriage ended & he moved away, & I finally lost touch, I never missed his birthday.Michael was kind, fun, strong for others & very direct. He had such enthusiasm & energy. I have often thought of him – & always on his birthday – & I feel shocked & very saddened indeed to think of him gone. His children must be bereft.It is one thing we parents always hold as a dread, losing a child, whatever the age. Michael was far too young to die. Thinking of you Derrick – & Jackie, & for all Michael’s  brothers & sisters With love from Carole & Brian xxx

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  11. A beautiful post filled with precious memories. You two are cared for by so many people around the world, I hope and pray that knowing this helps you both as you come to terms over the loss of your child.

  12. You’ve shared so many stories and pictures of your children over the time I followed your blog that I feel I have a tiny window into the richness of memories you can draw on. I wish you the comfort of your extended family in the coming days and weeks.

  13. Thank you for sharing those links Derrick. I too got lost in the story of the squatters. I guess it happened at a time before I started following you. It’s lovely being able to share those memories. My mother passed long before blogging was even a thing. My sisters and I share our memories of her but each of us remembers things differently. I hope you are comforted by all the support you’re getting family and friends and from the many who follow you.

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